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Power to Change

Advertisers understand the power of the subconscious mind. That is why they spend so much money to imprint it with their messages. I am impressed at the power of the subconscious mind, having learned for myself how hard it is to overcome some bad habits.

I’ve practiced hypnosis and somatic massage for over twenty years along with various forms of meditation. My meditation practice alone did not entirely crack the code of my subconscious mind, though it was important. Subconscious systems of thought ran in my mind automatically, they were both trusted and familiar. These habits reflected a self concept that did not budge, regardless of my insight and knowledge. You see, my map of reality included a recurring sense of self in danger. This crippled both my ambition and self care. My energy and attention seemed to be on the edge of a minefield. I felt fear of getting blown to smithereens. For a long time I refused to move forward living and used various avoidance strategies. By questioning my beliefs I previously took for granted, meditation, therapy and massage, I found partial relief, still my fear of disaster remained embedded in the map of my personal reality.

“How do we know hypnosis works? Because advertisers wouldn’t spend hundreds of millions to influence us with their messages if it didn’t work.”

Hypnotherapy is the method that allowed me to change the map of reality that became a habit in my youth.

It is really a kind of de-hypnotizing that brings the subconscious mind into alignment or harmony with the conscious mind. I’m more effective, as a result of this deconditioning. I’m liberated from the fear based habits which subconsciously sabotaged my best efforts to live. Hypnosis frees energy from old fear driven habits to create a better map of reality.

Hypnosis is a tool that updates the conscious and subconscious mind that’s capable of addressing and adapting to actual circumstances. Living now is an adventure in discovery in ever changing circumstances. Discovery is what the unknown offers and no longer is it simply a dangerous threat to me, it’s an exciting adventure.

By Sharon Schlotthauer

Why Explore the Subconscious Mind?

By Sharon Dalzell-Schlotthauer CMT CCHT |

When I say subconscious, I mean that dimly lit dreamy depth in mind where we store snapshots of past events, where actions we learned run automatically. Subconsciously, we don’t need to think about tying our shoes, how to ride a bicycle (once we’ve learned) or what is right and what is wrong in beliefs or behavior. We just react from an already known library of preconceived ideas.

What we do and how we do it can arise today, formed from habitual systems of thought, that  some call second nature.  Often these are really some of our earliest experiences that are deeply entrenched in the subconscious. Some may be a result of repeated suggestions through advertising that makes its way into our subconscious mind (beginning with the former).

This input  is instructing a  child’s mind, a mind that  is not developed enough to distinguish the difference between say, approval and survival because both may involve intense fear. In actuality, a more developed mind comprehends that  disapproval and a threat to life are not, in most cases,  the same thing. However,  as the child matures, decisions based on ideas, some of which are untrue or half true still exist as a habit of mind and are treated as facts automatically.  

The further development or lack thereof concerning the child above is based upon systems of belief that the child treats as facts. Indeed the sub conscious mind does NOT make any distinction between fact , fantasy,  a fiction. It’s all experienced in the subconscious, as real , like falling in a dream seems real even though it isn’t. We can also experience feelings arising from a daydream world in our waking life and our bodies treat what we think as fact.

Imagination is not bad, it can conjure something as a starting point for the creation of something no one might think possible, but we bring it to fruition in the physical world. The Wright Brothers proved man could build a flying machine. They first imagined and brought it from the mind into physical reality. We can see the vast potential of the subconscious and conscious mind mingling but past conclusions and fears can prevent  such  development.

When a body is on auto pilot, hypnotized into a trance through repetitions of mind (like the confirmation bias of advertising) it takes a conscious choice to step out of the habit. A habit can also be born as a result of a sudden intense event producing a traumatic response like PTSD, which greatly diminishes conscious actions and critical thinking.

The attempt to control present  events based on questionable beliefs based in the past on some snapshot of a highly charged event,  often leads to stagnation in the human experience. We don’t want an overbearing child mind habitually running and directing our adult life.

Decisions based on a child’s notion of survival are stupefying to an adult’s decision making process and our ability to adapt to new circumstances.  Remember unconscious beliefs running in the subconscious remain automatic until we consciously engage them. Those beliefs and prejudices keep the adult in check as if she/he were still that child. The fact is that as stated above,  decisions based on snapshots of frightening experiences or beliefs will continue to determine an adult’s actions and experience of life. A redundant living is boring but we now have endless entertainments at our fingertips that sooth the captive mind, caught in a fenced childhood yard, even as an adult.

The purpose of creating a trance with hypnosis is to consciously reevaluate both new and old habituated beliefs to create a better map of reality. We consciously view unconscious beliefs and bring new experiences and judgments to those conclusions made either long ago or merely accepted as true because of redundant suggestion. Hypnosis becomes a rescue and a repair operation as we consciously handle what was previously an unconscious memory.  We bring awareness of present events and new facts to old beliefs and that changes things. We can let go of a child’s conclusions and adult beliefs too.

A child’s mind is susceptible to fairy tale worlds of dark woods and closets containing scary monsters. Unconsciously this child mind can be manipulated quite easily. Ruthless con artist lie to us to activate our habits of mind and then rip us off because it’s like “taking candy from a baby.”

As a nation hypnotized by advertising that markets us dubious lifestyles based on preconceived notions, we’re repeatedly told what to do, what to like, and what to fear. Hypnosis is tool, like using a thorn to take out that thorn, then throwing both thorns away, realizing that we are actually free of the chains born of poor conclusions.

Entertainment is now more a tool of suggestion than ever before. This is often a redundant simulation of living that misses much of what it’s like to consciously be here. Our vulnerability existing consciously unbound by suggested conclusions keeps us open to what life really offers. We adapt, engage and live more fully. It’s is perhaps a cause for suspicion to consider hypnosis as a means to change one’s own beliefs to something more beneficial because they are more true, meaning more in tune with reality. It’s worth a look. The unconscious or child-mind can also be looked at from many perspectives. A conscious adult who understands the dangers of a subconscious or inner child mind, is in an entirely different position to respond. It’s a  matter of making contact with reality consciously.  

 

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SharonBy Sharon Dalzell |

In service of survival we imagine ourselves but we mistake this dreaming to be our real self. This self concept can have many parts that have different jobs. It’s an adventure describing how a conscious noticing can be introduced into this habitual (unconscious) world of mind. The self we’re imagining and the many sub selves it juggles thinks and feels itself real. To introduce noticing this self is rather like listening to conversations among imaginary friends. Noticing, or paying attention to these imagined selves operating subconsciously is powerful. After spending couple of days talking to and mostly listening to my own different selves and inviting them to come forth, they spoke out loud and it went something like this…

The imagined self lays down the ‘law’ regarding what we allow as socially proper behavior, for me. But, wait, here comes another self, with another set of ideas. A self who wants out from under the pressure of societal norms and it insists on saying ‘yes’ to a nontraditional lifestyle. This self thinks she has a right to a juicier, more lively living experience. Another self sighs and shuffles in, a worn and torn mother speaking about how sick and tired she is of the struggle that goes on among these different selves. It is lively and energetically charged, how these different selves step into the conversation. The mother self seems a bit of a martyr, managing the squabbling and manipulative mind stuff of and child and adolescent selves. The mother self is stoic and forever worn out. She feels guilty that she has not been able to reconcile these warring and childish selves. She wanted her kids to have better than she had. She now  wants the kids to go away because they don’t listen, they’re unruly and refuse to co-operate. They know she’ll take care of them no matter how they argue and refuse to co-operate with one another.

There is a conscious awareness is in the midst of mental stories, a noticing of the perpetual cycling of these selves as they are being taken care of or belittled by another imagined self like the martyr mom above. But who notices  what or who  holds all of this that is circling within. The martyr mom would be out of a job if the kids ever reconciled. Who notices this play in the theater of mind?

As I play with and listen to these selves I become aware that these so-called selves are habitual systems, created in my mind, developed from some snapshot in the past where this thought of ‘I’ made a decision about how to get by in the world, that decision has since become automatic. I don’t have to think about it for the habit to work. I am convinced all of us formed such survival strategies that are a bit like my personal example.

A baby learns and adapts to whatever circumstances are present. Familial influences are present along with an onslaught of hypnotic advertising. These things influence a human being by six months of age. Whatever beliefs (systems of thought) influenced us from culture e.g. spiritual or religious influence, it seems a sense of self will be created and form strategies to cope with the world. With media influence especially with the advent of the internet reaches into us more powerfully influencing what an person or group comes to believe. Primitive and modern values converge forming the foundation of notions ‘about’ ourselves built out of all the information bombarding the mind. All aspects of this self presumes to do different jobs and even struggle with conflicting beliefs. Survival is presumably the goal of these beliefs.

As an experiment let’s let these selves come forth and speak. This changes things because we do it consciously instead of habitually. It is illuminating and begins to separate awareness from what is a magnificent complex of thought that is typically automatic. We see these routines are often emotionally charged and it’s quite astounding to see them as a kind of thought software as opposed to ‘who we are.’

To help this witnessing of the mind, creating an altered state like a mild trance serves as a tool to break us out of our habitual thinking. Hypnosis is similar to a meditative altered state of mind, except in meditation we are quieting the mind, in hypnosis we are consciously exploring it. Our own Awareness simply begins to see what’s happening within the mind BECAUSE we are not operating automatically we bring NEW conscious insights, facts and judgments to these previously habituated thinking and this dramatically changes how we value these ideas. We may see some habits no longer serve us, if they ever did. Our whole view of ourselves and how we see the world can change. In this way hypnosis works in favor of the individual’s conscious freedom to choose.

Finding our own capacity to redirect previously automatic processes of the mind counters and, often, breaks the ‘spell’ cast by the constant hypnotic influence of marketing, cultural and religious influence. Many of these strategies simply guide consumers to products or beliefs that serve outside interests.

Conscious use of hypnosis can undo the influence of hypnotic techniques that we’ve been exposed to our whole life.

We begin to use the mind more consciously and less habitually to direct our own choices. This can be playful too. It’s joyful to find out there is more to life than habits formed many years ago. Let’s create a life worth living and a world in which it’s a joy to live.

My name is Sharon Dalzell Schlotthauer CCHT. I help the process above. I use hypnosis to undo a lifetime of hypnosis that no longer serves a purpose, if it ever did.  

Make your own memories

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By Sharon Dalzell

Consider trying hypnosis to reconstruct past traumatic memories, construct and anchor new memories of confidence and success in whatever you wish to accomplish, and/or let go of what no longer serves you in the present. Consciously changing one’s story is natural and effective. Memories of past events are reconstructed by the mind, but are not the event itself. The event has come and gone and is no more. It is an echo as only a memory of the event remains. In fact, that memory is only a facsimile of the event itself. Whether it is a reasonable facsimile is food for discussion.

Memories of traumatic events give us pause and help us to decipher what is safe for us to pursue. If we’ve had experiences that were far less than satisfying, then they have likely either left us apprehensive and overly cautious or reckless, flaunting a devil-may-care attitude in our choices. The outcome of either reaction to our past experiences has probably dominated our lives and been the driving force that has brought us unnecessary suffering.

Desiring satisfactual, zippity doo dah days, such as we see advertised via the media, we try to overcome our memories of past harm and focus on anything that catches our attention and offers us a bright and better future. However, we never seem to get to that future.

Still, we say that ‘we gotta play the game the way that it is’ and we are swept away by any mesmerizing promises dangled in front of us. In addition, we are either mesmerizing others with our charms or being mesmerized. We are enchanted by this or that notion or belief. We are charmed by this or that suitor. We are smitten by a desire to have what will make and keep us satisfied. All of this indicates that we are being induced into trance like states by those individuals selling material goods, expensive vacations, promises of great love, and/or adventure. All of this so that we will feel better about being alive. The question that we must ask is ‘How well does this work?’ However, that question never seems to be fully answered.

What I am suggesting is NOT chasing the next promise of fulfillment or satisfaction sent as a hypnotic suggestion. What I am suggesting is reconstructing past memories by induction of a light to medium trance , or altered state of mind. Such states appeal directly to the subconsciousness or inner child mind. The transformation and conscious creation of new memories that neutralize or heal memories of past wounds are meant for one’s own benefit. Thus, rather than lining the pockets of those individuals who sell ‘lifestyles’ loaded with all sort of products that we don’t need and will not help us in the long-run (because the underlying memories that we are trying to change will not have changed), creating new memories will allow the wounded memories to heal and the restlessness, fear, or concern to dissipate, negating the need for such lifestyles.

Hypnotic suggestion in a deeply relaxed state of mind is quite powerful and can be of great personal benefit. Reconstructing traumatic memories, just enough to be able to enter them consciously, allows the individual to gain victory and satisfaction by healing the memory. This collapsing of the old traumatic memory is accomplished by consciously bringing new experiences, facts and judgment into the subconscious or inner child mind.

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